Every Woman Needs a Tribe of Her Own

Welcome my friend!

You’re here for the first post on the new site and I couldn’t be happier. I hope you’ll find the look and feel open and welcoming. Note the open doors on the home page – they’re meant to welcome you in. When you enter this site, you join a community of like-minded women; women seeking to connect and to communicate. You are joining a community of women, each seeking out a tribe of her own.

The start of a tribe

Throughout the Bible we read of God putting women in each other’s lives to encourage and come alongside them. One of my favorite examples of this is with Ruth and Naomi.

But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.” When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her. (Ruth 1|16-18)

Ruth and Naomi connected over the shared loss of a husband and son. But they weren’t just connected by their emotional need but also their very real financial need. During a period of loss and stress they turned to one another and to God.

A tribe of our own leaves us less vulnerable in periods of hardship, loss, and stress. #ATribeOfHerOwn Click To Tweet

I believe that now, more than ever, women of all ages and seasons feel more isolated and less connected. They are lonely and feel left out.

How about you?

When was the last time you met a friend for dinner, or an abbreviated coffee date? Is the concept of a “Girls’ trip” so foreign you almost rolled your eyes?

Here’s the truth every women needs to understand and embrace before building a tribe of her own.

1. Busyness is not a good reason for not having a tribe.
2. A good tribe usually starts with several amazing friends and a few others you take a risk on!.
3. Friendships are a type of relationship; they require effort, investment, and will suffer if neglected.
4. Building a tribe doesn’t just magically happen; often, shared experiences, seasons or situations exist.
5. Building a tribe requires taking risk. You have to be willing to make the first move. Channel your Kindergarten-self and ask someone if they want to be your friend. (Not everyone will respond with a resounding “Yes!”)
6. Tribes, like friendships, cannot be bought; however, you can buy them coffee, or dinner, or maybe even a drink.

Make a Connection

I know that it can be hard to connect to others – but it doesn’t have to be. It can be as simple as asking another mom to join you for a cup of coffee. And, I am going to make things a little bit easier by covering the coffee for two of our subscribers.

Next Monday, November 19, I will selecting two names from the list of those that subscribe to this blog and giving each of them a  $10.00 Starbucks giftcard. And, for a third person, whose name will be drawn from the same list, I will be giving a copy of Lysa Terkeurst’s book Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely.

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