Make 2018 the Year You Become the Mom You Want to Be

Mom you want to be

The Race of a Lifetime

Let me ask you a question, when it comes to motherhood are you the mom you want to be?

Not so long ago “40” loomed before me.  Fresh off the pregnancy of my youngest child and fueled by sleep deprivation and hormones I set off with an audacious goal.  Without pressing pause or a backward glance I hit the submit button and registered for my first half marathon.  I’d never run that far before, I’d never even run half that distance before.  In fact, I was struggling just to run three miles without stopping.  However, the race was months away, and I’d found a team of women to train with.  I researched training plans, running loops, hydration and even shoes.  I knew the difference between a gu and a chew.  I wasn’t prepared to run all 13.1 miles when I registered for the race, but I knew I could be ready come race day.  Truth be told, Motherhood is a similar adventure.  The goal of raising a child is an audacious one and you just don’t wake up ready to be a parent.  Believe me, as a stepmother to 3 and mother to 2 of my own, I know for a fact that eighteen years covers a lot more distance than 13.1 miles.  Motherhood happens to be the race of a life time.  Are you prepared?

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Becoming the Mom You Want to Be

For a multitude of reasons I haven’t run much over the last three months – and it shows.  I’ve put on a few pre and post Holiday pounds.  My quads aren’t as strong as they once were and my endurance is low.  It doesn’t take long (especially in this cold) for me to get winded.  Being out of shape is just part of the issue, adjusting to the changing seasons is another.

Motherhood is much the same way.  We survive pregnancy and think we’ve accomplished something.  And, we have, only to be met with a new challenge and a new season of preparation.  You don’t wake up a world-class marathoner after years of sitting on the couch with a bag of chips.  You become a world-class marathoner after years of training and discipline and stewardship.  You hire a coach and purchase the right equipment and train, train and train.  Every race they enter is different.  The runner prepares and trains for everything from terrain to weather.

World class athletes also understand the significance of rest.  They understanding the significance of allowing the body and mind to recover.  They also understand as they train and mature that their body and abilities go through different seasons.

Becoming the mom you want to be requires more than going through the basic motions.  Yes, we can count it as a win that our child or children have survived to see another day, that they made it to school clothed and fed.  For must of us, especially those born and raising our children in first world countries,  becoming the mom you want to be is about so much more than satisfying the first few rungs of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

Becoming the mom you want to be requires training.  Some priorities and skills are passed on to us by family or community – but being that mom, the one you imagine yourself being takes time.  It takes effort and it takes training.  Becoming the mom you want to be means being honest with yourself about your strengths and your weaknesses.  It means admitting that you don’t have it all together.  And, it requires asking for help.

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Mom you want to be

Created to Become the Mom You Want to Be

God did not create your for mediocrity.  He did not create you to turn and rush toward the shallow waters.  You were created for something better.  Momma, you were created for something more.  At the very beginning of the Bible, at the dawn of creation we are told that we were made in God’s image.  And, while God was in the process of creation everything He made He deemed good.  But when it came to you, God saw something different.  When God created you, He said that you were very good.

God made the wild animals according to their kinds, the livestock according to their kinds, and all the creatures that move along the ground according to their kinds. And God saw that it was good.

26 Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals,a]”>[a] and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”

27 So God created mankind in his own image,
    in the image of God he created them;
    male and female he created them.

28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”

29 Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food.30 And to all the beasts of the earth and all the birds in the sky and all the creatures that move along the ground—everything that has the breath of life in it—I give every green plant for food.” And it was so.

31 God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. And there was evening, and there was morning—the sixth day.  (Genesis 1:25-31, NIV)

Motherhood is a daunting race, not a sprint or even a marathon.  It is a race that lasts a lifetime.  You may be tempted to give up, to believe that you are neither gifted nor capable as a mother.  Perhaps, you’re just tired, certain that there is not another ounce left to give to that child committed to your care.  Maybe you think you’re just too selfish, too damaged, too whatever to be the mom you want to be.  Don’t give into the lie.  You were created for so much more.  You were created in the image of God and you are good.  You are very good.

A Plan and a Goal for 2018

What if you made 2018 the year you were one step closer to becoming the mom you want to be?  This year on the blog my posts will focus on helping you grow into the mother God created you to be. This means you can expect practical posts focused on everything from time management to discipline, as well as others focusing on self-care and spiritual disciplines.  In 2018, I will be focused on encouraging and empowering you to become the mom you want to be, the mom God created you to be.

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Happy new year Momma, I look forward to walking through 2018 with you!

Be there.

2 thoughts on “Make 2018 the Year You Become the Mom You Want to Be

  1. I appreciate this encouragement to keep striving to be more and to connect with our kids in even more meaningful ways. It’s all of grace, and we are so dependent upon God for each day and each parenting moment.

  2. For someone on the back side of parenting and homeschooling 4 kids, I’ll definitely agree that mothering is an endurance race, not a sprint. There are lots of times when you feel like you fall and cant get up as well, but it’s then that you just have to rely on God even more and keep moving forward. Thanks for the encouragement and God bless you on your journey with your little ones!

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