Two Books Your Tween Girl Needs Now

Two books your tween girl must readWe’ve entered that special time between the ages of 8 and 13 where our Eva is no longer a little girl, but not yet a teenager.  Glimpses of the young woman she is growing into peek out from behind the glasses, braces and pony tails.  There’s no denying it, her last birthday ushered us into the tween years.  I’m not sure if I should laugh or cry.

Two books your tween girl must readBoth the Weatherman and I want to raise strong, confident girls.  Girls who know whose they are.  We want to raise daughters that understand  their value and their worth.  It’s not enough for our daughters to know that we love them.  They must also be confident in their Heavenly Father’s love for them.  If we don’t cement these truths deep within their hearts and minds the world will send them a different message and if we’re not careful it will take root.

Barbie Girl

I’m a Barbie girl, in a Barbie world
Life in plastic, it’s fantastic
You can brush my hair, undress me everywhere
Imagination, life is your creation

 

Barbie Girl, Aqua

I remember when this song came out my Sophomore year in college.  I remember going to a club with my girlfriends and dancing to it.

I’m a blond bimbo girl, in a fantasy world
Dress me up, make it tight, I’m your dolly

The feelings the song evoked then are not the same ones I experienced when I heard the song last week.

“Mom, at recess some of the boys in my class circled me and were singing this song.” said Eva.

“What song?” I asked.

I’m a Barbie girl, in a Barbie world
Life in plastic, it’s fantastic
You can brush my hair . . .

“That’s all I can remember” she said.

I was angry.  I asked her which boys sang the song.  I knew them. I knew their parents.  And I knew that a few of them had sisters.  I expected more of those boys.  But I also knew that likely they didn’t know all the lyrics of the song they were singing.  That’s not an excuse, it just is what it is.

Eva and I talked about how the song made her feel.  We talked about her asking the boys to stop and how she felt when they didn’t.  We also talked about what she should do if it ever happened again and what I would do.  She knows Momma has her back.

And later, I vented to my mom friends.  I discussed it with my husband and I resolved to pour truth back into my girl.  I don’t believe it’s coincidence that this all occurred as I started promoting two very special books for tween girls.

FaithGirlz Backpack Bible

Just last week I gave my daughter a copy of the Faith Girls Backpack Bible,  I told her that now that she was reading the Bible more on her own that it was the perfect size to stick in her backpack and take to school to leave in her locker.

“Or, put in my desk,” she replied.The perfect Bible for your Tween Girl

I agreed and praised God simultaneously.  If my girl wants to keep a Bible in her desk I’ll take it and run.

While this Bible is beautiful, it manages to be feminine without being too young.  (This is an important distinction in the early tween years.) It is also practical.  The NIV translation is easily readable with the words of Christ in red and is also the perfect size to fit in little hands.  The FaithGirlz Backpack Bible includes a pink ribbon bookmark, a soft pink leather like cover and 12 full-color pages of FaithGirlz Fun.  Eva spotted the fun pages pretty quickly!

One way to ensure our tween girls are armed with the truth is by leading them to the source. #BraveBeauty #GirlsWithSwords #JesusGirls Click To Tweet

There is one way to ensure that our tween girls are armed with the truth about who and whose they are, and that’s by leading them to the source.  A young girl armed with the Holy Word of God is a child well prepared for the battles of this world, including one with singing boys on the playground.  Together we’ve made our way through the Proverbs, with a special focus on wisdom; now she is at an age where she can go back and draw upon that reading by herself.

Brave Beauty: Finding the Fearless You

Earlier this summer I had the privilege to be on the launch team for this amazing book written by author Lynn Cowell.  This book is written especially for girls between the ages of 8-12 and is meant to be a companion guide during this tumultuous years on a journey to learning to become courageous, confident and fearless.

The perfect book for your tween girlBrave Beauty helps tween girls to:

Gain confidence by accepting her unique qualities and understand how they can work for her, not against her.

Discover who God says she is, in His eyes, and how He can help her.

Discuss the tough stuff she’s going through as she changes physically, emotionally, relationally and spiritually.

AND

Learn how God’s words can help her become brave and beautiful.

My Eva has this book resting on the ledge of her headboard and is making her way through it.  Sometimes she covers more than one of the 100 mini chapters each night and often asks me questions or shares something from what she has read.

The FaithGirlz Bible and Brave Beauty Book are perfect companions to each other and for the tween girl in your life.

Friends, I believe with every fiber of my being that we are never more powerful than we choose to pour truth into and build-up the children around us or under our influence.  That’s why today I am happy to help a few readers do just that.  If you have a daughter, granddaughter, niece or friend that you want to invest in and build up now is your chance to do so.  This Sunday I will be giving away on my blog two copies of Brave Beauty and one copy of the FaithGirlz Backpack Bible.  If you want to signup for your chance to win one of these books you need only leave a comment on this post (here on my blog) by noon ET on Sunday, September 23.  Please share this post with a friend.

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(Remember, you must leave the comment on my blog site to be entered.)

Be there.

 

 

22 thoughts on “Two Books Your Tween Girl Needs Now

  1. Julia, this age is so hard and scary for parents, but you are doing an amazing job! I was a little fearful when Brienne reached that middle school age but it is such a fun and exciting age too. I love the open communication that she and I have now (she’s almost 14) and I just encourage you to keep your communication line open too. It’s amazing to watch our little girls turn into women right before our eyes!

    1. Adrienne, thank you for the encouragement! It’s an amazing time in her life and my hope is that we set a firm foundation of who she is in Christ that will remain with her for a lifetime. I’m finding how important it is to cut out time for just she and I so that the lines of communication stay open and she knows I want to hear what’s on her heart.

  2. I cannot wait to check out these books. It’s such a time of change for girls and outside media doesn’t help them. You are doing great with your girls.

  3. Thank you for your post. I think these would make perfect birthday presents for my soon to be 8 year old. It is comforting to read your words and know that I have a very important job. Their heavenly father loves them more that mamma. I need to remember that too!

  4. Julia – this post really came at the perfect time for me! I believe God guides you to give your followers what we need when we need it. This is spot on for what is currently laying heavy on my heart! This past weekend I was on the receiving end of two comments, both very unkind, from my own mother. Although, I am an adult and I know in my brain that the comments are not only unkind, but very much untrue, the insecurities and low self-esteem are bubbling. My take away from the comments is that we as mothers have to be very careful of our tongues. Even in a moment of frustration with our tween children, we need to think before we speak. We need to pray to God before we speak to ask Him for guidance. My resolve is to Pray more 🙂 and also be more intentional with my conversations with my daughters and remind them daily that kindness and love are the qualities by which we want to know each other. Thanks for writing this blog!

    1. Joanna, I am so glad this is resonating and speaking to your heart. I think one of the reasons I am so very passionate about this topic is because I had an earthly father that dumped so many negative words into my heart and head and I know that I still battle what was said to and about me. Our words matter more than we could ever imagine. 💕💕

  5. That song! Noooo! So, what exactly does pour into your daughter mean? What does that look like? Uplifting words? Praying together?

    1. Danielle,

      When I think of pouring into my girls I think of telling them daily that I love them and that their daddy loves them and that God loves that. I remind them that God created them on purpose and that he has a special plan for their life. I try to affirm when they get discouraged that we all won’t be the best at everything and that he created us all with different gifts – reminding them that they don’t have to be the best they just have to try their best.

      I also like to point out their different character traits and not just focus on them being “smart” or “pretty”. For example, one of my girls is very tender hearted and the other is very brave.

      When we say bedtime prayers I pray that they would never forget how much God or their mommy and daddy love them – no matter what. My oldest knows that I may not always like her behavior but I will always love her.

      Does that make sense?

  6. Thank you for sharing this. These are such great words to hear from a parent on the same boat as I am. Thanks so much for sharing.

  7. I’ve been looking for some sweet, inspiring, and challenging books to work through with my tweets. These look perfect.

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