These Aren’t My Kids

I wonder if deciding which of the teaching Pastors “got” to lead the new series on resources (aka money) involved casting lots?  Or, maybe a Rock/Paper/Scissors tournament?  Whatever the case, Teaching Pastor Chad Caddell knocked it out of the park  at our Lansing Campus today and made me glad I brought my good pen and a journal – despite switching purses on my way out the door this morning.  (I may or may not have made the Weatherman run back in the house for my eyeliner.  You know how it is.)

Perhaps you’re wondering what any of this has to do with motherhood.  Let’s face it, when you warm up your blog with “The Pastor talked about money at church today . . . ” it feels like we should all be looking for Part II of the joke.

No jokes here, just lot’s of good stuff. Here are some of the statements that stuck with me this morning and I jotted down.

We need to get this ownership issue right.

Do you need to break up with money?

Do you have a “mine” mentality?

Whose resources are these?

Truthfully, I’ve spent a good amount of time thinking about how the Weatherman and I use our resources  – but that’s another post for another time.  The message from this morning lingered with me for a different reason.  It floated around in my head before landing in a minefield of conviction regarding my children.

I know I’m not the only one, but girl, this is personal.  Can I get an “Amen”?

There is nothing more personal than the relationship between a momma and her babes.  My babes.  My children.  If I am not careful, if I am not purposeful, I forget whose children these are.  I forget whose child I am.

Whether you’re a tiger mom, the she-bear of Brave or of the “free range” mentality, I believe most moms are of a certain mindset when it comes to their children.

Do I think about my children the same way I think about my resources?  *Inaudible head nod.* Am I just like my two year old with her little fists tightly clamped around the toy of the moment screaming “Mine. Mine. Mine.“? *Yes. Yes. Yes.*

I need to get this parenting relationship right.

I might need to break up with my child.

I have a “mine” mentality.

I think these kids are mine.

I have a problem when it comes to the girls God has blessed us with.  Sometimes I think and act as though they are mine.  Sometimes, I act as though that little game of “I love you the mostest” is true and leave God out of the equation.  Sometimes, I hold them a little too tightly spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically.

When I choose to live as though my kids are mine I belie the message I am trying to instill about who they are in relation to their Creator and make Him small in their eyes.

Fortunately for this giant two year old with the “mine” mentality there is a way out and it starts with a focus on truth.

God loved Sofia & Eva so much that He sent His son to die on the cross for them.  

JOHN 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whomever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

Our God will not forget our girls.

ISAIAH 49:15 Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne?  Though she may forget, I will not forget you!

Our world should not revolve around our girls.

1 CORINTHIANS 11:3 But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man,[a] and the head of Christ is God.


I need to stop acting like a 2 year old.

1 CORINTHIANS 13:11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.

This doesn’t mean I’m loving my girls any less. It just means I have an awareness of how my relationship with them needs to consistently point to the Father. It also means I realize that’s it’s not my job to control them any more than the Father controls me – trusting Him instead with the greatest resources He has entrusted to me.




2 thoughts on “These Aren’t My Kids

  1. Love this post! Thanks for the reminder that our kids belong to God. He has only entrusted them to us for a little while to nurture and to teach them to follow Christ. If we’re not careful, our kids can become an idol.

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